Sometimes life can be like an obstacle course. Instead of getting daunted by the challenges and hurdles set up before you, see the obstacles as an opportunity to strengthen and expand your creative capacity, and in doing so find ways … Continue reading →

Are you having trouble keeping on top of everything in your life? Is it because you’ve committed to more than you can handle? The next time a request comes your way – give it a little consideration before deciding whether … Continue reading →

When faced with criticism, do you get defensive and fire back justifications? Let’s face it; we are not as perfect as we think we are, so some of the criticism is probably valid. Why not use criticism as a constructive … Continue reading →

If you get too wrapped up in all the stuff coming at you, you lose your ability to respond appropriately and effectively. In other words, you can’t do things faster and better until you learn how to slow down. Your … Continue reading →

When we hold on to emotional hurt and let it linger we become so wrapped up in it that we can’t enjoy the present. To move beyond the hurt we need to forget it. But sometimes the harder we try to … Continue reading →

Do you love what you do? Are you doing what you love? Or are you coasting on what’s easy and familiar? To do what you love, reconnect to your purpose. Purpose is invariably connected to giving. Take time to think … Continue reading →

When you’re angry with someone, rather than letting your anger expand to everything they’ve ever done or failed to do, take a moment to look at the bigger picture and NOT just the small details. Understand it’s YOU who is … Continue reading →

As we travel towards our destination, it’s so easy to get distracted. Sometimes we become so busy thinking about little things, that we lose focus and stop moving forward. So, when distracting situations arise, remind yourself that they’re only sideshows … Continue reading →

Just as you would nourish the body with a healthy breakfast, in the same way, start your day on the right foot by feeding the mind with positive material. Prior to starting your work day, either on your morning commute, … Continue reading →

Often, it’s not really the people or having too much to do that creates pressure in life. It’s your working and living habits that need tweaking. No one and nothing can make you feel pressured without your permission! Work out … Continue reading →

Why do most of us find resolving situations quite difficult? Because we’re in the heart of the situation and part of the equation, we’re carrying a lot of ‘baggage’. This affects our ability to come up with the correct resolution. … Continue reading →

Humility is to put others first. But surely, if you were to put others first in the workplace, you’ll miss out on recognition and personal development. Actually, humility is not putting yourself down or downplaying your own value. Humility says, … Continue reading →

People can motivate other people. A book can motivate. Money can motivate. But the best motivator is an idea! How to let your ideas motivate you? Capture the idea. Write it down – in a notebook, on a post-it-note, or … Continue reading →

When things go wrong and you’re not happy with a situation – Don’t Worry! To be free from negative feelings, understand that the situation is temporary, and then find one positive thing in it. Remind yourself of this positive aspect … Continue reading →

Procrastination is an obvious form of avoidance. Ask yourself what is the one thing that you are delaying? Why are you avoiding it? Is it the task itself or something else? Know why you procrastinate doing a certain task and … Continue reading →

Often we assume that good ideas just happen. Or we try to generate ideas in a formal environment. Sometimes changing the setting can get our creative juices flowing. Instead of holding a meeting in a conference room or the office, … Continue reading →

by Bronnie Ware Original Source: http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of … Continue reading →

When mistakes are made, we get defensive because of our ego. Ego prevents us from learning. Nobody likes making mistakes but why not make a resolution to learn from your mistakes. Even if 99% of it is another person’s mistake, … Continue reading →

Everyday our willpower gets tested! Willpower calls on our inner strength to take right action and control impulses and reactions. Regardless of how “strong-willed” you are, why not conserve your willpower for those times when you need it the most? … Continue reading →

Obstacles are like mountains. When you look up at the mountain from the valley, it seems so big and difficult to climb. Instead of looking at obstacles from below, try taking an eagle’s eye view. From this viewpoint, you can … Continue reading →

Everyone talks to themselves. At times it’s a conversation that runs continuously in the background of our mind. So, don’t allow negative self talk to creep in and sap your confidence. Increase your self-worth by choosing to talk to yourself … Continue reading →

While planning and to-do lists are essential for effective time management, no day turns out exactly as you planned it. Something almost always seems to come up unexpectedly to derail your efforts. It’s just as important to be flexible, as … Continue reading →

As the days get shorter and colder, even the best of us can get a little down. With a positive attitude, embrace the weather and keep your spirits high. Don’t let the external affect the internal state of mind. If … Continue reading →

Set goals for 2012. For your career, relationships, health and personal development. Now, for each goal, write down some small steps you can take to achieve them. What’s the next step for you right now? What will you do to … Continue reading →

There’s a powerful connection between the words we use and the results we get. Poor chosen words can kill enthusiasm. Well chosen words can motivate, offer hope and consequently alter results. To enhance and empower others, harness your word power … Continue reading →

There are times in the day when you have plenty of energy (peak times) and other times when your energy is at low (trough times). Your focus and attention span ebb and flow. Do you know your peak and trough … Continue reading →

Let’s reflect on 2011 and pick out 2 snapshots – meaningful moments from this year. Snapshot No. 1: Think of a personal failure. What was your underlying behavior or attitude at that time? Snapshot No. 2: Think of a personal … Continue reading →

by Ken Burgess It’s sad but true that many people are failing in reaching their goals! Even though they sit down and ask themselves what they really want in life, write it down, break their goals into small action steps … Continue reading →

Minimize stress by simply being organized. See if you can delegate – or even reduce – your to-do list; share cooking tasks with others to save time! Tackle all the partying and festive dinner with exercise and fresh air. Alternate the … Continue reading →

How often do you hear yourself say, “I can’t concentrate!” Actually, concentration isn’t a gift and it isn’t about intelligence. Concentration is driven by interest, and interest is driven by attitude. If your attitude swells with interest, concentration is astonishingly … Continue reading →

I think you should read this out loud to yourself every day… (By Dr. Stan Harris) Wow, what a great day to be alive. I feel dynamite, I like me! I accept me!! I love me!!! I am going to … Continue reading →

The mind thinks many thoughts, leading us in different directions. No wonder there is so much chaos in the mind, creating traffic jams and even a few accidents! Now imagine the state of the roads if we didn’t have any … Continue reading →

Do you feel resentment towards another? Are you willing to resolve this conflict? What attitudes are preventing you from making peace? Do you want to teach them a lesson? Or do you think that they started it, so they should resolve … Continue reading →

‘Getting away from it all’ is something we all love to do. Why wait for the holidays! Whenever you need it, make time over the weekend for your very own retreat at home. Create a sanctuary. Drop the distractions. Take … Continue reading →

True power isn’t power you have over anyone else, it is a full stock of energy accumulated in your being. With such power, nothing can bring you down or de-stabilise you. Your inner power becomes a natural protection, not just … Continue reading →

The festive season gives us opportunities to meet up with many more people. If you find that you have negative feelings towards certain people, than take a moment to transform your feelings. Follow your spontaneous instinct to give. The heart … Continue reading →

As we juggle all the various roles we play in life, many of us struggle to keep a balance. To NOT feel ‘role overload’ or ‘role strain’, you need to maintain balance so that you don’t keel over. Play all … Continue reading →

Complaining just wrecks the mood and motivation for ourselves and others. So, today, practice the ‘No Complaining Rule’.  Even if you’re having a really bad day, put things into perspective.  Look for the silver lining on the cloud.  Live in … Continue reading →

Do you seek others’ approval?  When you don’t get your regular “fix” of approval, how do you feel? Others’ cannot constantly give you approval.  So, instead of seeking and needing approval from others, give yourself approval! Let go of the … Continue reading →

Make consistency your routine. It creates a pattern of discipline, a steady coherent order in your life which will give you peace of mind. Consistency builds integrity and trust in relationships. But watch out, as steady and consistent behavior can easily become … Continue reading →

When hit by rejection, know that you are not alone. Beethoven’s music teacher declared him “hopeless” at composing, and Walt Disney was fired for “lacking ideas”! Don’t let the rejection hurt you. Realize that rejection happens! Accept it, it may be frustrating but … Continue reading →

As words get thrown around, arguments can easily create misunderstandings and wrong feelings. Arguments most often lead us nowhere and bring no solutions; instead they intensify the problem. So, try not to get into arguments in the first place. But … Continue reading →

Everyone’s different. The key is to adapt yourself to different people.  This does not mean that you have to be someone you’re not. To be able to adapt, you first need to know yourself well enough to understand a broad … Continue reading →

Being comfortable is great, right? But how many opportunities are you letting slip by because you don’t want to feel uncomfortable? A little step outside your comfort zone is all it takes to grow and improve, to reach a higher … Continue reading →

Recognize your achievements and give yourself a pat on the back. Self-encouragement is the key to self-esteem. Whether it’s doing a task well, bouncing back after a disagreement, or following a routine all week – appreciate your achievements, (even if it’s … Continue reading →

Assumptions are a part and parcel of life. We make so many assumptions about people, places and things. Assumptions are when we believe something to be true without actually knowing it to be so. We use assumptions as facts in our … Continue reading →

When we talk too much, people switch off and stop listening. Think carefully about what you need to communicate. Can you do it with fewer words? Speak less, engage others in the conversation and they’ll become more willing to listen. … Continue reading →

See goodness in everyone. Today, observe something good in at least one person and encourage them with your positive words. When you do, you become free from negative or waste thoughts. And most importantly, you’re able to help others to … Continue reading →

When we get disappointed and disheartened, we often stop and give up. That’s when it’s important to renew our courage and enthusiasm. This week, choose one thing that you’ve given up on that you would really like to take up … Continue reading →

By Trevor Bradshaw. There is probably no other word that invokes fear in people as much as that of cancer. Since it is so often viewed with an air of fatalism, those who successfully battle the disease are beating the … Continue reading →

Emotional clutter stems from the habit of not wanting to let go. Instead of hanging on to an old sweater, it’s hanging on to an old emotion. Once an emotion is over, it’s over, unless we choose to hang on … Continue reading →

When you make a mistake, learn from it, resolve not to repeat it and then let it go. Do the same with others. Instead of making their mistakes bigger, dissolve them in your mind. This will help the other person … Continue reading →

Look at your to-do list and then look at how much time you really have. Remember, every little thing takes time. How much time do you really have for productive work? Be realistic. If you are trying to do 7 … Continue reading →

Wrong questions: Who did this? When did this happen? Why is it happening to me? Wrong questions are dis-empowering. They keep you focused on what’s wrong, on what isn’t working. Right questions: What difference can I make? How can I … Continue reading →

Living with glee means you’re happy and have lots of energy. Nothing seems to be too much trouble and there’s time to fit everything in. You never suppress a generous impulse when you live with glee. You accept events as … Continue reading →

Seek to ‘see’ the benefit in all events. That’s not to say, ignore the downside. See the ‘reality’ but, at the same time, deliberately look for the upside. Find that silver lining. Look for the lesson. Realize, nothing happens TO … Continue reading →

When we’re continuously being battered by the storms of life, what we need to do is hang on to ‘Trust’. Trust is a support which enables us to weather the storms. Trust does not depend on a clever head, only … Continue reading →

Be punctual. To arrive early, or right on time, is a sign of respect for yourself and others. By being punctual you cut your stress levels and avoid causing inconvenience to others. The key is planning. Allowing extra time in … Continue reading →

Sometimes, we feel trapped in circumstances or relationships. We think we lack choices or that there’s no way out. Are we really trapped or are we like a bird holding on to a branch saying ‘I am not free, I’m not free’? … Continue reading →

When you compare yourself to other people, do you rank yourself better or worse? Does comparison feed your insecurity and feelings of inadequacy? Or does it make you feel good and lets you reinforce the belief that you’re better than … Continue reading →

Do you ever find yourself explaining something to someone and when you’ve finished speaking they look at you as if you’d just rattled off something in fluent Japanese? So, you start over, doing your best to explain it so that … Continue reading →

Why not make your mind healthier and go on a thought diet! Cut down on all those unhealthy negative and wasteful thoughts that offer no nutritional value. Start feeding your mind with positive healthy thoughts. Here’s our suggestion for a balanced … Continue reading →

When you have staying power, you have “stick-with-it-ness”.  Just like a postage stamp, you’re able to stick at one thing until you get there. So, even when there are lots of mini-failures, don’t stop! Use your strength, energy and focus to … Continue reading →

All too easily, we remember things we’d rather forget, and forget things we really should remember. Consciously, work out what matters and what doesn’t. Know ‘what to remember’ and ‘what to forget’. Then pay attention to what you choose to … Continue reading →

To be tension free, pay attention. Pay attention to the little things in front of you, as well as thinking and planning ahead. If you neglect or postpone all the small things today, they’ll create tension for you tomorrow. So, … Continue reading →

Are you quick to judge others? Right and wrong become good and bad so fast, as our thoughts jump to negative conclusions about ‘the other’. Don’t be quick to judge. You don’t know the whole story. Exercise an attitude of … Continue reading →

Some of us have a talent for melodrama. We blow things out of proportion – creating ‘dramas’ out of little things. All this can get a little too exhausting, for us and others. Try steering your Inner Drama Queen away from over-exaggerated … Continue reading →

If you could push a button and get all the way down to the weight you know deep down you’d REALLY like to be at, what would you weigh? Most people “lie” to themselves when they think about how much weight they’d like to lose. They say … Continue reading →

If you really want to do something, there is no doubt that you’ll find a way. If on the other hand, you don’t want to, you will always find excuses, ‘I could, but…’ It’s time to ‘get off your but!’ … Continue reading →

We all have the capacity to be strong and gentle, confident and humble, adventurous and cautious. We have a wide spectrum of qualities within ourselves. When we dig deep and discover our inner capacity, we’re able to access the right quality at … Continue reading →

Responsibility or “response-ability” is our ability to respond to the world. To think, to say, to do, or to feel – are all our responses. However, we don’t always consciously choose our responses, we react instead, and then we blame … Continue reading →

Our conscience is our in-built awareness of what’s true and what the ‘right’ thing to do is. When we do the ‘wrong thing,’ and go against our conscience, our conscience will nudge us and remind us that we’re our of … Continue reading →

How often do you hear yourself say, “I can’t”, “I’m not able” or ”I never will”? Can you identify self-limiting beliefs you have about yourself? Can you then challenge them and say: “I can”, “I’m able”, “I will”? Choose self beliefs … Continue reading →

Do you have something you want to change or achieve in your life? Maybe you’d like to… start a business find new love get a new career (or a raise) lose weight or something else … No matter what you’d … Continue reading →

Statistics show that obesity is often associated with lower incomes and less education. How can we make sense of that statement? As humans, we need basically three conditions to make sure that we feel reasonably well and our needs are … Continue reading →

Do You Make These 9 Mistakes When You Set Goals? By Henrik Edberg “Our plans miscarry because they have no aim. When a man does not know what harbor he is making for, no wind is the right wind.” ~Seneca … Continue reading →

1. Life coaching by-the-hour is a complete waste of your time and your money; there’s simply no way that an issue that is pervasive enough to need life coaching can be resolved in an hour or a few numbers of … Continue reading →

As the shops begin to display their full ranges of seasonal gift ideas, they are putting plans into action that were formulated almost a year ago. For many of us, Christmas is a last-minute rush and an expensive time of … Continue reading →

Sometimes, we take life far too seriously. We forget that life is a game, a play, in which we receive an opportunity to be creative and playful. And each scene invites us to ‘play’ a different role. Understanding that we … Continue reading →

Before going to bed, have a quick replay of the day’s activities on the video of your mind. If you’re carrying negative feelings towards yourself, someone or something, then take a moment to edit. Editing doesn’t mean deleting what happened, … Continue reading →

With big goals you need to break them into small steps otherwise you’ll find yourself going from one extreme to another. From no exercise to a plan to running 10 miles! Make each step, small and manageable. Today make time … Continue reading →

Moods are like the weather. They can hit in gentle waves, descend like a grey mist or arrive as a full blown storm. Here are a few suggestions on how to deal with your stormy moods: Become fully aware of … Continue reading →

Your childhood dreams and wishes are very important. They come from your very core of you. Today take a little time to recall your childhood dreams, “When I grow up, I want to be…” What was your childhood dream? Are … Continue reading →

Where there’s ego, people are less likely to help, contribute and be part of whatever you’re working towards. If your colleagues are not cooperating with you, check your motives. Check: Are you working for recognition? Are you competing? Are you … Continue reading →

We live in a plugged-in world, computers, music, phone, TV, game consoles… the list goes on. You’re not a machine. So, disconnect from the many sources that absorb your energy. Quickly release your mind from all the debilitating socket points. … Continue reading →

Resilience is your personal power, your inner strength that allows you to rise above difficult circumstances and bounce back stronger than before the challenge! With such vitality, nothing can bring you down or destabilize you. Activate your resilience by using humor to see the … Continue reading →

Honesty does not mean simply speaking your mind. Honesty means to be very clear about everything going on inside you. Where there is honesty, feelings become pure and clean. When your thoughts and feelings are clean, clarity is reflected in … Continue reading →

Today, just for one day, give up one of your little addictions – coffee, chocolate, a pattern of behavior. Organize alternatives to help cope with the withdrawal. With 100 per cent determination, exercise your willpower and focus on making it through the … Continue reading →

If you lead an active outdoor life you will think of the September dusk as coming too early and making your evenings shorter. If you spend much of your time indoors you will see them as longer evenings. The hours of … Continue reading →

We all have our own share of fortune. Take a closer look and realize that you are indeed very fortunate. When you appreciate the good fortune you already have, you stop expecting more or looking for something better and start being … Continue reading →

What causes you stress and anxiety? What are you willing to do to remove the stress factors from your life? Did you know that often it’s our attitudes and thoughts that cause us stress! Nothing can make you feel stressed … Continue reading →

Learn to be patient, like an hourglass. Until every grain of sand has trickled from the upper chamber into the lower chamber, we must be patient. Live fully in the present as you contemplate each grain passing through the narrow neck … Continue reading →

How often do you find yourself looking for an argument? Not because you have a negative motive but just because it’s a habit. An argument is a battle of opinions. A dialogue is much more listening than talking as you … Continue reading →

Let the past be the past – both my past and the past of others. There’s no need to keep repeating the past in my head. Think: Whatever happened, happened, it’s OK for me to move on. Let me be … Continue reading →

In the process of decision-making, become free from: – preconceived notions and false assumptions – any negative emotions, fear, hurt or anger – the need to please others Let your mind and heart take a breather. Create a positive intention … Continue reading →

You can’t give what you don’t have. So, if you want peace in the world, you need to be peace. Spend a few moments each day in solitude to experience inner peace. Then allow the experience of peace to flow … Continue reading →

If you own a car, boat or aeroplane you will be well aware of the need for regular servicing, maintenance and a routine tune up. Engineers have an adage. ‘If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it’. This may hold good for … Continue reading →

When you’re corrected or given a piece of advice, don’t think “I didn’t do anything wrong so why am I being told this” or ”This is really unnecessary”. Accept it and keep it as a piece of “wisdom”, even if it’s not … Continue reading →

Self-efficacy and self-respect are the pillars of healthy self-esteem; absent either one, self-esteem is impaired. Self efficacy generates the sense of having control over your life — not being a passive spectator and a victim of events. Self-respect enables a benevolent, no neurotic sense of … Continue reading →

We effortlessly fall into habits and sometimes these make us a little too rigid and stuck. Habits break easily when there is flexibility, so loosen up those mind muscles. Remind yourself: “I don’t need to act in the same old … Continue reading →

Even those people with rose-colored glasses know that cancer patients are not responsible for their illness, and neglecting medical care to fight a serious battle with alternative resources can be deadly. Nevertheless, contemporary research has now proven that there is … Continue reading →

If you accept people the way they are, without expecting them to be something they’re not, you end up being less disappointed and less frustrated. Go from expectations to acceptance. Today, be accepting and fully engaged when interacting with others. … Continue reading →

An ant is tiny. An elephant is huge. But if an ant enters the ear of an elephant, the tiny ant makes the elephant go crazy. In the same way, if we allow negativity to enter our ears, our behavior is affected. … Continue reading →

Check your attitude towards all the ‘unimportant’ tasks that you’re involved in throughout the day. If you find any task as unimportant, you probably won’t be able to give your best. So, understand the value of what you are doing … Continue reading →

“I don’t play games! But other people do.” When we interpret others’ motives and behaviors as games of manipulation and spin, we develop a cynical perspective and become disillusioned. We lose trust and become wary as we watch out for … Continue reading →

Like the sea, we’re influenced by our surroundings. When the weather is calm, the waves roll gently. When stormy winds blow, we get wild and out of control. But like the sea, deep beneath the surface there is another world; … Continue reading →

Mistakes do matter. How you recover from them matters even more. The best way to handle mistakes is to reflect on them. Ask yourself: What did I learn? What will I do differently as a result of what I now … Continue reading →

Fear can save us from life-threatening situations, but sometimes fear denies us life-affirming new adventures. Visualize doing something you’re fearful of, and ask yourself what the worst outcome could be? Now imagine the worst that could happen if you don’t face … Continue reading →

It’s easy to notice other people’s shortcomings and when we do, our thoughts and words often become negative. This brings the atmosphere down. To create a positive environment, refuse to notice and talk about other people’s shortcomings. Learn to consciously … Continue reading →

Negative thoughts create storms in the mind and deplete your energy. Waste thoughts decrease your ability to deal with what’s going on around you. So, pay attention to the quality of your thoughts. Shift to think positively and you’ll begin … Continue reading →

Are you able to ask for help without hesitation or do you feel uncomfortable asking for assistance? Perhaps you expect too much from yourself. Understand that life is supportive, though not always in the way we expect. So, even if … Continue reading →

Instead of rushing around, talking fast, walking fast, thinking fast …. practice patience. Patience doesn’t make you slow. With patience, you’ll be able to do 10 hours of work in 2 hours. You’ll do what’s needed, easily and quickly without over … Continue reading →

In our lifelong career as an actor in the drama of life, we play a variety of roles. The danger in being an actor is that we can lose ourselves in a role. We start to believe that we are … Continue reading →

Responding to critical feedback is never easy. To make it easier, listen, really listen with an open mind, and be receptive. In fact, feedback is the key to self-development. It gives you a chance to evaluate yourself and work out what … Continue reading →

When a surfer misses a wave, the surfer doesn’t walk away from the ocean or waste time sulking. In the same way, when you miss life’s opportunities, keep the faith that opportunities are like waves, there’s always another one coming! Just keep … Continue reading →

With habits: never give in or you’ll lose your dignity. With the self: never give up or you’ll lose your destiny. With others: never give your worst or you’ll never develop your best. So, just give your best. Remember, givers gain, … Continue reading →

Getting over-attached to the tasks we’re responsible for often leads to worry and stress. Responsibility is best fulfilled when we become detached from the task and the outcome. We’re able to do our best when there are no expectations of … Continue reading →

Goal posts change all the time. That’s why it’s important to regularly take a moment to re-connect with what’s important, rethink your priorities and clarify what to do next.  

xThose hazy, lazy days of summer – weather permitting – are ideal times for doing nothing, either on an annual holiday or at weekends. And yet, for all too many of us, we are so used to absorbing information, working against … Continue reading →

Would you like to stop the habit of complaining? Well, if not immeditely, then at least start by complaining less! Then work on re-phrasing your thoughts, transforming a complaint into a solution and finding possible steps to fix the problem. … Continue reading →

To overcome your weaknesses, work on one weakness at a time. Create a determined thought to overcome it and stay determined until you become free from it. Make sure you don’t allow yourself to create excuses that’ll get in your … Continue reading →

Use the ALPHA method: Ask! Ask for their name (be proactive)! Listen! Watch the words drop off their lips! Parrot! Repeat their name immediately!  John, it is so nice to meet you! Hook! Look at the face and hook the name … Continue reading →

Time waits for no one. Yesterday is history, tomorrow a mystery. Today is a gift… that’s why it’s called the present. And when you are fully present, your presence is the gift.  

When you’re driving, you can’t stop someone overtaking or driving along side you. You really can’t do much about the behaviour of other road users. You simply have to accept the other drivers on the road and keep going. In … Continue reading →

When things get tough, focus NOT on “How?” but on “What?” you need to do – and just do it. Feel that nothing is difficult and nothing will be difficult. Simplify your thinking, hold onto self trust and look for … Continue reading →

Like a bird in flight, your purpose in life is to soar high above the world, to seer a course with the wind and enjoy the freedom of flight. You have the capacity to fly in harmony with the flock and … Continue reading →

For the most part – our mindset towards ourselves, others and life is the product of attitudes, perceptions, habits and beliefs. Your mindset shapes the way you think, feel and act. What’s your current mindset?  

The greatest enemy of success and happiness is anger. It is anger that holds you down, tires you out and takes away all your joy in life. It is anger, from the beginning of time, that has done more harm … Continue reading →

Do you work in order to live, or live in order to work? Isn’t there more to life than work? What about your passion in life? Have you given it a high priority and made the time to follow your … Continue reading →

It’s rare for anyone to be entirely blameless. Is your share of the blame lost in a long chain of events and reactions? Or perhaps you’ve conveniently forgotten your input? Sometimes it helps to understand that mistakes are really just … Continue reading →

Just as a tortoise is able to withdraw into its shell at a moment’s notice, we too can withdraw our attention away from what’s happening around us – withdraw our attention away from our senses, our thoughts and emotions, and … Continue reading →

Hey… Don’t ever let somebody tell you, you can’t do something. Not even me… Alright? You’ve got a dream, you gotta protect it! People can’t do something themselves, they wanna tell you that you can’t do it. You want something? … Continue reading →

You may know someone really well, but you’ll never know all the details of their life. To keep your relationships and connections fresh, avoid making assumptions and taking each other for granted. Be genuinely interested in others, ask questions and discover … Continue reading →

When you allow situations to collide with your head and start thinking about them, your heart is affected and you become over emotional. Over-thinking makes small things big and your head heavy. So the next time something collides with your head, … Continue reading →

Mon, Mar 14, 2011 (source http://www.startstrongmonday.com/2011/03/14/out-of-mind-into-body/);   So Much Knowledge, So Little Wisdom The Greek Parthenon was a temple for Athena, The Goddess of Wisdom and Strength. It’s said that knowledge is power. It’s also been said that knowledge is dangerous. I … Continue reading →

I thought this would make for an interesting read for those of you who are currently working towards their weight loss goals (including myself). (Source: News from Beverly International) Build muscle, burn calories, control your appetite and fight aging! We’ve got … Continue reading →

Jonathan Trager, prominent television producer for ESPN, died last night from complications of losing his soul mate and his fiancee. He was 35 years old. Soft-spoken and obsessive, Trager never looked the part of a hopeless romantic. But, in the … Continue reading →

At the end of each day, review the day’s events. What worked? Where did you get distracted? What went wrong in your day and what did you learn from it that will help you be more effective tomorrow?  

It is said that fate puts people into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. REASON When someone is in your life for a reason, … Continue reading →

East Indians, we are told, do it more than any other nation. People with religious beliefs do it once a year. Captains of industry do it less often. You can do it whenever you like. For centuries, the practice of … Continue reading →

You’re probably connected to at least 10, 20 or 100 people. So, when there’s a change in you, others will automatically be influenced. How? When others see a change, they’re inspired to bring a change in themselves.  

Real happiness is neither a high nor a low. It’s not a stimulation. It can’t be earned, or manufactured. Happiness is not dependent on anything or anyone. It can’t be outsourced. When your happiness is a dependency, there is every … Continue reading →

Like the trained eye of a jeweler who discerns the real from the imitation, we too have an insight, a subtle clarity that enables us to sense what is of value, what is true and false. Today, trust more and … Continue reading →

Some circumstances are just beyond your control. Often, all you can do is accept this fact, hang in there, stay calm and do your best. Try to curb your expectations and be understanding of yourself and others. Everything else will work … Continue reading →

Today, make time to pack up all your negative and wasteful thoughts. Pack up your concerns and worries. When the mind is free from clutter, you’ll travel lightly through life with space and energy for creativity and innovation.  

When we’re working in a team, we need to make sure that we inform all the details to everyone involved in the task. The task is easy to accomplish when those involved feel part of the team. So, make sure you … Continue reading →

Life is not measured by how many breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away. So, make sure you slow down to breathe, to be fully present in the moment, and enjoy all that is fabulous … Continue reading →

Did you know that you have the power to tolerate anyone and  any situation? Tolerance is not suffering in silence. It means to become resilient in an easy and natural way to such an extent that there’s no feeling of … Continue reading →

Do you gossip? Passing on details (that really aren’t your business) to a third party (who doesn’t need to know)? What do you get out of it? What has it been costing you? If you’re ready to break the gossip … Continue reading →

Being bold is about swallowing your pride, overcoming your fears and taking action. Bold people don’t wait for life to happen to them; they go out and create it. They don’t stop when they meet limits or challenges, they push … Continue reading →

Value every interaction by engaging more fully with people. Make every effort to be absolutely present in the company of others. Use your contact and give them your undivided attention.

Do you ask too many questions? There’s nothing wrong with asking questions, as long as it’s positioned and phrased in a positive way. Ask the ‘why’ questions to discover the roots of the problem, to understand and focus on solutions. Ask … Continue reading →

Use your commuting time as a buffer zone to ‘switch into and switch out’ of work. In your morning commute, plan for the day ahead. Do some strategic thinking, whether it’s to ponder on the small details or explore the … Continue reading →

Spring cleaning has its origins in ancient history. Back then; with no labor saving devices and no electricity, spring marked the start of the season when the weather allowed a complete cleaning of the cave or house. Since then, the tradition has been maintained … Continue reading →

Instead of letting your anger spin out of control, create some breathing space to cool down. Then think clearly and recognize how no one can make you angry! Anger only arises when ‘your’ expectations are not met.  

As the season changes, there’s feeling of vitality in the air. Everything awakens after a deep, nourishing sleep. It is the time for new growth, the blossoming of creativity. Your personal energy is fresh and exuberant. It is the time … Continue reading →

We all have a mother and a father and, of course, most of us remember them especially on their special days. But now it could be time to go beyond cards and flowers. We all owe a deep debt of gratitude … Continue reading →

The most important places to keep clean and tidy are your mind and your heart. Make time to clean out all the negative feelings and attitudes. Clean up all the thoughts that you wouldn’t want to see the light of … Continue reading →

We all talk differently, see things differently, hear differently, think differently, act differently ….the list of differences goes on and on. Even though we’re all so different, we’re still so much alike. Today, enjoy the fact that we are all … Continue reading →

Our heart is also a barometer that helps us to see what is important to us. If we do not listen to our heart, we deny ourselves valuable feedback and guidance. Our heart knows what we should be doing more … Continue reading →

The call of time is to send thoughts of peace and power to the world. Your thoughts travel, moving at a great speed and with considerable impact. Let the thought of peace sit in your mind, knowing that the vibes from your thoughts … Continue reading →

When you accept and honor the role you play in the drama of life, you’ll always be able to give your best performance. You’ll then be able to utilize your time and resources for maximum benefit. Remember – we all … Continue reading →

We face many conflicts in life. The next time you’re tempted to battle out every disagreement, pick your battles. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Save your energy and attention for the ‘real’ problems, and let the small ones go.  

Slow down the train of your thoughts and become mindful of the ‘gap’, the spaces in between your thoughts. Take moments through the day to enjoy the ‘still spaces’ in your mind. Use these ‘gaps’ as creative spaces, from which innovative thoughts … Continue reading →

Sometimes, we hold on too tightly – to memories, successes, people and opportunities. Is it because we’re afraid that no more will come our way? By holding on, we block other possibilities and risk crushing what we hold in our … Continue reading →

Forget TGIF (Thank God, It’s Friday). Think TGIM (Thank God, It’s Monday)! Increase your motivation, commitment, passion and the feeling of fun in the workplace. In other words, love what you do. Then you’ll happily go to work, Monday after Monday! … Continue reading →

When someone hurts you, you can either hold on to the anger and resentment or you can embrace forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn’t mean minimizing or excusing the wrong. Forgiveness means releasing your feelings of hurt and anger, and developing empathy and … Continue reading →

Are you ‘young at heart’, ‘old before your time’, or ‘wise beyond your years’? Actually, the playful child, the caring parent, the masterful leader, the enlightened sage… they are all part of you! Did you know that we ‘age’ according to … Continue reading →

Like a caged lion, do you sometimes prowl around with pent-up frustrations or mope around feeling low in a daze? Well, instead of dreaming of running wild under the open sky, try this, open up your approach: comfort or adventure; … Continue reading →

Problems have within them the very real potential to make us stronger, as unshakable as a mountain. How? They’re an opportunity to draw on your inner strength and continue. It gives you the steadiness to succeed and the wisdom to slip past … Continue reading →

We might not be brilliant at everything, but we have virtues and an inner brilliance. However, it’s most most likely that these virtues are lying dormant, at the core of our being. Tap into your brilliance by creating time to … Continue reading →

When you choose to carry the past around, life weighs heavy. There’s equally too much baggage when you hold on to the uncertainty of tomorrow. To travel light and enjoy the journey, consolidate all that you’ve learned from the past … Continue reading →

How often do you want to change the choices other people make? Next time, respect other people’s choices and remember: People have good reasons for the choices they make. Each person learns about life at their own pace, through their own … Continue reading →

Regularly make time to de-tech. Switch off the phone, laptop, TV. Unplug from all the electronic and digital technology. Now breathe and relax. Tune into your inner space and experience inner peace. Enjoy solitude and refresh your energy.

The positive is there, in everything. All you need to do is simply look for it! In every person, the best is there; your opportunity is to recognize it. In every problem, the solution is there; your responsibility is to … Continue reading →

How often do you forget where you’ve put your wallet, keys …? Or do you can’t remember if you’ve locked the door or left the iron on? Is it because you can’t keep your mind on what you’re doing? Are … Continue reading →

Each belief we hold carries a magnetic field that draws a similar energy towards us. The more conviction we have that a belief is true, the more powerful its magnetic pull. If we believe we are lucky, we attract good … Continue reading →

Are you a people pleaser in the workplace? If you are,you might be taking on more work than you should. You might also find yourself avoiding the hard conversations because you don’t want to rock the boat. Imagine how different … Continue reading →

Drops of water gather to become a small stream, the stream grows to become a river, the river passes through many stages, many obstacles, and yet it keeps on flowing. Life too flows like a river. And like the river, the … Continue reading →

You’re the most important person in your life, so fall in love with yourself! How? By appreciating the best in you – your qualities and your inner beauty. If you don’t love you how do you expect others to love you? And … Continue reading →

We’re always commenting in our minds, even when it’s nothing to do with us. All this unnecessary chatter creates clutter and takes our mind away from being present and calm. So, here’s a challenge for you: while aware of your … Continue reading →

Just as the bird has to let go of the branch in order to fly, in the same way we also need to let go to experience and express love. The branches we hold on to are our attachments (people … Continue reading →

Procrastination kills; it kills the idea, the motivation and the will and we lose the power of the moment. To stay creative and to stay motivated, act now! If we leave it for later it may never happen.

Saying no isn’t about refusing to do tasks. It’s all about considering whether other people’s demands on you are reasonable or not, as well as being reasonable with the demands you put on yourself. Be responsibly selfish!

Do you sometimes take risks thinking you’re being courageous? Before starting something new, consider carefully if what you are doing is right and what the consequences of the action may be. Combine being brave and courageous with understanding, then discern when … Continue reading →

I am a catalyst for change, for confidence and for choice; I am a motivational life coach. Think about me as your personal trainer for your mind. Allow yourself to be coached! Do something different and achieve something new. . … Continue reading →

For good communication skills, be careful not to exaggerate. Resist the temptation to blow something out of proportion. When people hear the words “you always” and “you never”, they immediately go on the defensive. Try using phrases like “I feel angry … Continue reading →

With spring almost upon us, why not treat yourself to some meaningful spring cleaning for the mind, heart & soul? How about some life coaching that allows yourself to finally tackle those things in life that you’ve always wanted to … Continue reading →

Peace is like glue that puts back together all the broken pieces that make us peace-less. So, every now and then (maybe as you eat or drink) become quiet and reconnect with your inner peace and put all the pieces of your inner … Continue reading →

Just as sports coaches help players visualise their goals and victory, in the same way, if you want to create a winning strategy, create a positive vision of yourself and visualize your success. Be a self coach and: – regularly … Continue reading →

Do you know the #1 reason people to achieve their goals? (Hint: It’s not the economy, limiting beliefs, or flawed planning) The answer: It’s not taking action! You see, the world doesn’t pay you for what you know; it pays … Continue reading →

It’s not busyness in life that makes us tired. It’s thinking too much that makes us tired. How not to get tired? Don’t get distracted, get upset or get too ‘lost’ in anything or anyone. Don’t think too much about … Continue reading →

Self-trust is having an unshakable conviction in yourself that relies on no proof or evidence. However, to start building self-trust, you need to see improvements in yourself first. Make a promise, a commitment to you, however small (in fact, start very small) – … Continue reading →

Think of a person with whom you find it really difficult to work with. Now, make a conscious effort to think of one of their better qualities. Remember, each and every individual has something special about them. Whenever you come into contact with … Continue reading →

Are we there yet? How often do you find yourself anxious to get ‘there’? Are you over-focused on the destination? How about enjoying the journey and not just the destination!

It’s as easy to be miserly with information, know-how or experience as it is with cash. Does fear hinder your generosity? Are you hanging on to ‘know-how’ as a means to making yourself indispensable? Real generosity is boundless. A candle loses … Continue reading →

Coaching is a form of personal development Life coaches believe in the great possibilities of human potential. They know that for many it is undiscovered. Some of us know we have the potential because we’ve seen it flash on the … Continue reading →

Before taking any important decisions, take a moment and detach yourself from the situation. Let your mind become free from any associated memories and unnecessary attitudes. When the layers that cloud your perception fade away, you can see the situation clearly. Then you’ll … Continue reading →

Having a simple lifestyle doesn’t mean you have to give up anything but it does mean to give up the attachment to whatever you have. When you learn to appreciate and use all the objects, facilities and technologies in your … Continue reading →

Where there is humility there is a willingness to learn. And this in turn brings progress. So, the next time things go wrong, instead of feeling bad, tap into your humility and see what you can learn.

Delegating is a bit tough at times because you may not trust someone to do a particular task. To make delegating easy: know your team, their individual strengths and weaknesses; and match tasks with staff. Delegate real developmental challenges, not … Continue reading →

Where change results in resistance or fear, ask yourself the question ’What is the learning that is happening for me at this moment?’ If you continue to resist, that negative force will push you into more resistance. But when you learn to … Continue reading →

The world is what you think of it. So think of it differently and your life will change. When you wake up, instead of thinking: Can I sleep just a little bit more? Think differently: What can I read right … Continue reading →

When someone has done what we neither expected nor wanted them to do, our attachment to our expectation causes us to be ‘hurt’. The ‘hurt’, imagined or not, causes mistrust to arise within us. To free ourselves from habitual mistrust … Continue reading →

You’re the star, playing the lead role in the story of your life. However, in addition, you also have roles in many other stories where you’re one of the extras or playing a supporting role. Not every scene is about … Continue reading →

Instead of changing many different things at once, make a small change and when you’re comfortable with that change, move on to the next small change. Notice small improvements and bask in your inner appreciation. Your confidence will increase. If … Continue reading →

Do you have the confidence to turn your hand to whatever life throws up? Or do you only do things when you’re absolutely certain you can do the required task? If you wait to be perfect before you try, you’ll … Continue reading →

How often do you worry, “what if something goes wrong?” It’s good to be aware of what could go wrong, so that you can have back up plans or even be prepared to do things differently. However, needless worrying about … Continue reading →

There are many people that are already successful and reaching their goals, yet they still work with coaches to stay on track and get there quicker. Much quicker. Oprah is a good example, and even America’s number 1 success coach Jack Canfield has a coach to support him. Continue reading →

Notice how many times you put yourself down during the day.  Include what you think and say, even words spoken in jest. Pay particular attention to how you react to your mistakes and poor choices. Instead of putting yourself down, … Continue reading →

As a coach, I often end up not only coaching people, but also being their “sounding board” for their great new ideas. This led me to the thought of creating this group to provide a safe, unbiased place where anyone … Continue reading →

Our feelings determine how we talk to someone. So be aware of your emotions before you start talking. Continue reading →

Why might there still be resistance to coaching? Change firstly, as we’re being afraid of change, and being asked questions secondly; when we were asked questions by our parents, it was often because we did something wrong: “Why did you do … Continue reading →

We have all done it. We make New Year resolutions, maybe struggle to keep them for a few days, make ourselves miserable and then lapse back into our old habits. Sure, we may keep a few of these resolutions during … Continue reading →

What is attitude and how can we benefit from having a good one? Continue reading →

Here’s the Cycle of Passion; this is a great idea to become more aware what really matters in life: “following your passions”. The cycle looks like this: KNOW what you are passionate about – because people are most authentic, focused … Continue reading →

In the midst of a conversation, have you mentally switched off, shut down and gone home? Or are you busy competing for the other person’s attention by going on and on and on. Many of our conversations are not so much … Continue reading →

1.  Don’t let your insecurities get the best of you – and do not put them on display 2.  Focus on what you consider important 3.  No more procrastination, no more wasted time. 4.  Eating healthy is the only way … Continue reading →

By Jack Canfield The mirror exercise is one of the most simple yet powerful self-esteem andself confidence building exercises in the world. Its purpose is to replace thenormal negative self-talk that dominates our thoughts with positiveself-affirming self-talk. It is an … Continue reading →

We’ve all been exposed to ideas about goal-setting. Some of us love goals, and ardently set them, pursue them, and complete them. Some of us set some goals, but don’t end up following through. And some of us are so … Continue reading →

Bad habits are like a comfortable bed, easy to get into, but hard to get out of. So how do we break bad habits? focus on changing just one habit at a time acknowledge how the habit dis-empowers you realize how you alone … Continue reading →

Journeying through life is like driving a car. Here are the 4 most important rules: have self-confidence and self-control to be in the driving seat of life select the route to your goal, your destination negotiate the road works, potholes, … Continue reading →

As motivational coach, I know what it’s like to set a goal and then allow something more pressing to get in my way of achieving it. But when I know that someone is counting on me to get something done, … Continue reading →

Now this is a beautiful little poem that might help you in finding your self-worth again. Read it out loud for its best effect on yourself:     Time somebody told me That I am lovely, good and real That … Continue reading →

I believe that coaching is: A positive process, tailor-made to suit the agenda of each individual client or organization A totally holistic process addressing the needs of the whole person Founded on a unique, productive, interactive relationship between coach and … Continue reading →

As the shops begin to display their full ranges of seasonal gift ideas, they are putting plans into action that were formulated almost a year ago. For many of us, Christmas is a last minute rush and an expensive time of rampant … Continue reading →

To help me serve you better please take a moment and vote in my current poll: http://bit.ly/cqPzZd . It only takes one click. # I am offering coaching sessions for #stepparents helping them to improve their relationships with their step-children … Continue reading →

To achieve any goal, follow these steps: Get absolute clarity of the goals Determine the beliefs and habits you must have Develop a strategic plan with tactics and timelines Determine the financial and non financial help you will need Take … Continue reading →

Lesson One: Change Your Life by Taking Responsibility for It. The topic of responsibility lays the foundation for all other valuable lessons. If you are unwilling to take complete responsibility for your life, you will find yourself in an endless loop of … Continue reading →

Thoughts are like ants. When one comes, a whole troop arrives. One thought can multiply in a matter of seconds, and then suddenly an army of negative thoughts is on the march. What are you going to do to stop … Continue reading →

We’re stuck inside our comfort zones. The thing is that we only change when we have to, and this feeling of having to has to come from the inside, as a burning urgency and desire that we own – and … Continue reading →

Nobody is coming “If it is to be, it’s up to me” is a realization to which most people will come eventually. Time and time again, especially when engaged in weight loss activities, people seem to think that there is … Continue reading →

Events in our lives As my mentor Jack Canfied says, the formula E+R=O stands for “The Events in our lives plus our Reaction to them equals the Outcomes we experience”. If we look at the parts of this formula, we … Continue reading →

Did you come across this before as well? You feel the need to make a change for yourself and end up failing, reverting back to your previous ways. I am sure we all can contribute to this – one way or … Continue reading →

When I talk about coaching people often times seem to confuse the meaning of it. Many feel that coaching is something they only know from sports, or mistake it for psychotherapy or similar disciplines. This article should help explain what coaching … Continue reading →

Nothing is as intimately familiar and easy as clinging to old habits – but nothing is more stultifying to the mind as well. New experiences beyond the common habits are important for personal growth. Studies show that people who do … Continue reading →

As we all know, making decisions can be hard; making the wrong decisions often leads to feeling unhappy. The term “buyer’s remorse” describes this feeling quite well and can be extended to other aspects of life, too. The problem with … Continue reading →

Psychologist Daniel Goleman found that nice people simply make more money. There seems to be a direct connection between having a nice (or agreeable) character and job-related / personal success. ‘Nice’ also wins in love related issues. A Toronto research … Continue reading →

We are more intelligent than we give ourselves credit for. 90 per cent of our mental power works subconsciously without us being aware of it – the good thing is that we all can benefit and use this hidden intelligence. … Continue reading →

People often say “I’ll try…” rather than “I’ll do…”, indicating that they are willing to make an effort, but it also denotes a lack of commitment since they do not have grasped the philosophy of what real change does require … Continue reading →

There’s a mental process which you can go through, that will make sure the achievement of what you want faster than anything else. It’s easy to do and it has an amazing effect on your progress. Your brain is a … Continue reading →

I thought I’d share this little poem by Isaiah Berlin with you: I wish my life and decisions to depend on myself, not on external forces of whatever kind. I wish to be the instrument of my own, not of … Continue reading →

Did you ever notice how hard it seems to achieve something when you don’t have a particular goal or outcome in mind? Imagine this for a moment with me: you have all the time in the world and you could do … Continue reading →

There are three key-insights into the creation of the values towards persistence: Our failure to be able to persist is often times based on our irrational and self-defeating views; we are not so much disturbed by the things that happen … Continue reading →

All I really need to know about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sand pile at … Continue reading →

Persistence requires a philosophy of long-term endurance - not just for today or tomorrow. We often want change without the hard work involved. We do like the idea  of change and not the struggle towards it; a New Years resolution thus often … Continue reading →